Copper & Kings Distillery Wedding

Brandon & Lucas’s Laid-Back Wedding in Louisville

From the start, it was clear that Brandon and Lucas’s wedding at the Copper & Kings Distillery would be a warm, personal celebration filled with meaningful touches. As a couple who has lived all over the U.S. and until recently called Nairobi, Kenya home, Brandon and Lucas crafted a gathering that felt like a reunion, a chance to celebrate with both chosen and biological family in a city close to their hearts. Their day felt cozy yet elevated, fitting perfectly in the warmth of Copper & Kings in Louisville, KY.

Pre-Wedding Moments at Hotel Genevieve

The day began with Brandon and Lucas getting ready at Hotel Genevieve, where they spent some quiet time with close friends, enjoying the excitement and calm before everything kicked off. Without a formal wedding party, they kept the focus intimate and low-key, allowing for meaningful photos with their inner circle and sharing a champagne toast at the rooftop bar with their closest friends.

A Quiet Walk from Genevieve to Copper & Kings

After getting ready, Brandon and Lucas walked from Hotel Genevieve to Copper & Kings, taking a few moments to stop by the iconic LOVE mural outside Play. The weather was perfect—a sunny mid-60s day with just a hint of breeze, making it an ideal fall walk. This time together offered them a rare moment of quiet before joining their guests at the venue. Allowing for moments like this—where the couple can take a pause and enjoy each other’s company—can be an important part of a relaxed wedding day. Weddings can sometimes feel rushed with a rigid timeline, so having a bit of flexibility allows space for spontaneous moments, like a quiet walk or candid photos, that contribute to the natural flow of the celebration. Brandon and Lucas’ relaxed pre-ceremony photo session, for example, gave them time to savor their day without feeling hurried or stressed.

Pre-Ceremony Family Photos at Copper & Kings

Before the ceremony, Brandon and Lucas took time for some family photos in the modern outdoor area of Copper & Kings, where the relaxed setting allowed for quality moments with their loved ones before the celebration began. It was also during this time that Brandon and Lucas each presented their moms with bouquets, a thoughtful gesture that honored the important role their mothers have played in their lives.

Honoring a Queer Tradition: Exchanging Watches Before the Ceremony

Before we could legally marry, LGBTQ+ couples often exchanged items other than rings to symbolize their commitment. Brandon and Lucas honored this tradition by exchanging watches before their ceremony—an intimate and personal gesture—before officially exchanging rings during their vows.

The tradition of exchanging items other than rings before marriage, particularly among LGBTQ+ couples, is tied to the historical necessity of maintaining discretion and safety when our relationships were criminalized or socially stigmatized. In times and places where it was dangerous or illegal for us to publicly show our commitment, items like watches, necklaces, or other personal gifts became symbols of love and commitment, often kept private to avoid legal or social repercussions.

A Venue That Supports Inclusivity

I’ve always appreciated Copper & Kings for their unwavering commitment to inclusivity. From their gender-neutral restrooms to their overall welcoming atmosphere, they go above and beyond to create a space that is open and accessible to all. It’s been a pleasure working with them over the years— their dedication to creating an inclusive environment aligns perfectly with Brandon and Lucas’s values, making it the ideal venue for their special day.

Their Ceremony Celebrated Community & Connection

Their heartfelt ceremony had many guests tearing up—including Brandon and Lucas themselves. Their vows invited everyone in, weaving in moments of audience interaction that made the experience even more intimate. After their first kiss, they celebrated with a spontaneous piggyback down the aisle—a joyous exit that felt so perfectly them and was a first for me to capture.

Cocktail Hour Magic and Candid Moments

The reception began with cocktail hour, where everyone gathered around the recessed fire pit, creating a laid-back vibe that set the tone for the evening. Since we completed all their formal photos ahead of time, Brandon and Lucas were able to join their guests, allowing me the perfect opportunity to document plenty of candid shots of everyone mingling, laughing, and fully enjoying themselves.

Reception Highlights: Drag Performances, A Suprise Flashmob Serenade, and Lots of Dancing

As the evening progressed, guests made their way to the second-floor art gallery, where the festivities continued. After dinner and toasts, Brigitte Bandit, an Austin-based drag queen, took the stage for an unforgettable set, including two fabulous Dolly Parton numbers. To make sure guests could show their appreciation, Brandon and Lucas placed cash tips at each table, allowing their family and friends to shower Brigitte with a little love throughout her performance. Her energy was so contagious that guests immediately flocked to the dance floor as soon as it opened—and that momentum kept the celebration alive well into the night.

One of the most memorable moments was a flash mob serenade from Brandon to Lucas, set to S Club 7—a band that became part of their relationship soundtrack. Brandon introduced Lucas to them early in their relationship, and ever since, their upbeat songs have been a favorite on road trips and cozy days at home. Right after they got engaged, Brandon knew he wanted to create a fun, coordinated dance to surprise Lucas.

With the help of friends Lauren and Dana, both dance instructors and elementary school teachers, they made the vision a reality. Weeks before the wedding, Brandon mixed the music, and Lauren and Dana choreographed the dance. Slowly, they brought in close friends to learn the moves, and eventually, both of their moms joined in too! When it all came together, it was such a sweet surprise for Lucas and pure joy for everyone watching.

Available Light & Flash at the Reception

I documented the reception primarily with available light, adding occasional bursts of flash. Working with the light that already exists in a space allows me to stay unobtrusive, capturing candid moments and the true vibe of the day, while the flash brings crisp clarity and party vibes when needed. By using both, I take advantage of the best of both worlds—maintaining the authenticity of the day while also capturing the energy of the reception.

Queer-Positive Wedding Vendors

Brandon and Lucas’s wedding not only celebrated their love, but also reflected their commitment to inclusivity. Several of their vendors are part of Inclusive Kentucky Weddings, a resource for couples to find vendors who are not only LGBTQ-friendly, but are also advocates for inclusivity across all races, gender identities, cultures, religions, bodies, abilities, and sexualities. By working with professionals from this network, they helped ensure their wedding was a joyous celebration while contributing to a more welcoming, affirming, and equitable wedding industry for all.

Vendor Team:

Photography: Sarah Katherine Davis 

Coordinator: Catherine Vish

DJ: Derek "DJA" Allen

Florist: Phoenix Hill Flower Farm

Caterer & Venue: Copper & Kings

Deserts: Wiltshire Pantry

Drag Performance: Brigitte Bandit

How To Better Serve LGBTQ+ Couples: A Guide For Wedding Vendors

The wedding industry is getting more inclusive, but we still have a *lot* of work to do. Here’s a great starting point for wedding vendors on how to better serve LGBTQ+ couples.

Clearly say what you stand for on your website. 

• If you have space to talk about loving pizza, coffee, and houseplants you have space for an anti-discrimination statement.

• Couples should never have to email you to ask if you’re inclusive.

• If you feel hesitant to post that you are LGBTQ-friendly, you need to ask yourself why that is.

Use gender-neutral language on your website, contracts, and when working with clients.

• Not all couples have a bride. Not all brides are the ones leading wedding planning.

• Queer couples shouldn’t have to read bride & groom over and over again on your website or in your contract.

• You don’t know if there are non-binary folks on the guest list. When speaking with the wedding party call them that or say “Sarah’s side” if you need to be more specific.

• “Esteemed guests” works much better than “ladies and gentlemen” when making announcements.

Respect Pronouns.

• Include your pronouns in your bio and email signature. This is not only a way to let folks know you will respect their pronouns, but it's also a nice way of normalizing everyone sharing their pronouns. The burden shouldn’t fall on those using they/them, xe/xem, or trans folks. Pronouns shouldn’t be assumed.

• Ask couples their pronouns when they inquire with you and then always use those pronouns. This is great to include your contact form!

• Pronouns are also an indicator of what other language might work for someone. If a client is using they/them pronouns, even if they look very feminine or masculine to you, they likely won’t want other gendered language applied to them. Instead of bride or groom, you can say marrier. Instead of husband or wife, you can say, spouse or partner. This is a great habit to get into regardless of your client's gender identity!

Don’t assume things about your clients or their guests.

• Even if your couple looks straight to you—you don’t know their gender or sexual identity, nor do you know their guests’. 

• Ask your couple what they want! Queer or straight, lots of couples don’t want to participate in various traditions. Give couples the freedom to make their own choices & to make their wedding a reflection of their love.

• For photographers, don’t assume someone’s role in a relationship and then pose them that way. Pay attention to how your couple interacts with each other and use that to inform posing and prompts. 

• When discussing getting ready or fashion choices you can refer to someone’s outfit rather than “the dress” since all kinds of couples wear all kinds of different things.

• You can ask if someone will be including flowers in their look rather than assuming they will have a boutonniere or bouquet.

• When ending the ceremony, the officiant can say something like I pronounce you “legally wed” or “married” or “partners for life” instead of any gender-specific phrase.

• The officiant can also say “you may now share a kiss” or “I invite you to seal your promise with a kiss” instead of “kiss the bride.”

Advocate for LGBTQ folks outside of the wedding industry. 

• It is not enough to be “okay” with taking someone’s money.

• You should be working to improve the everyday lives of queer folks by staying informed, signing petitions, writing your representatives, and sharing content to help others get involved as well.

• If you're able, donate to organizations like the Marsha P. Johnson Institute, The Trevor Project, or locally at Louisville Youth Group.

Commit to Learning.

• Queer Kentucky has a training called "Trans Inclusivity in the Workplace" that is great info for all work environments.

• Inclusive Kentucky Weddings expands on this post in their guide for LGBTQ+ friendly wedding vendors, offers an LGBTQ+ audit for wedding professionals, and has a directory full of Queer-positive wedding vendors!

• Listen to LGBTQ+ folks when we share our experiences.

Last but definitely not least; Don’t tokenize people. 

• This would be a whole post of its own. Read “People Are Not Props/How to Avoid Tokenism in Your Portfolio” from Catalyst before working to diversify your portfolio.

Intimate Mellwood Art Center Wedding by Louisville Kentucky Photographer Sarah Katherine Davis Photography

When I first met with Jenny (she/her) and Haley (she/her) they were planning a traditional wedding. We talked about what they were imagining, what they were looking forward to, and how to make the day feel true to themselves. Two weeks later Jenny emailed, "Haley and I really appreciated all the time you spent with us and all the insight you shared! It got us both thinking that maybe this “typical” wedding we’ve been planning isn’t what we actually want, it’s not what really feels like us. SO, we are totally rethinking the big day." I am always thrilled when I can be an advocate for couples choosing to do what feels right for their wedding rather than what they think they "should" do.

While some couples look forward to all the events that come with a more traditional wedding, many others feel like they are performing or jumping through hoops rather than getting to spend quality time with their family and friends. In my wedding planning guide, I describe myself as a “doing whatever you want because it is YOUR wedding” coach. You can read through some alternatives to various traditions at that link and you can check out some wonderful non-traditional wedding venues on my comprehensive list of the best wedding venues in Louisville here.

Another reason I wanted to share their wedding with you is to highlight how much can be captured with the three-hour elopement package I offer! This package is a great fit for smaller non-Saturday weddings or elopements— you can read more about what is included at the bottom of my pricing page.

And finally, the number one reason I'm excited to share Haley & Jenny's wedding with you is that their wedding and their images have brought me a lot of joy. There were so many thoughtful details throughout the day— all of which they describe much better than I could, so I included quotes from them through the post so you can read more about the significant moments from their beautiful wedding.

“We loved doing a first-look! It took a lot of pressure off and gave us time to get some pictures out of the way, while being together and getting even more excited about walking down the aisle. Our wedding ceremony felt so personal and filled with so much love and excitement. Our reception was like a good old fashion house party (minus the random strangers) but outdoors and with the best pizza in Louisville and the best playlist, created by Haley.”

“Our wedding was on the smaller side, but it was the perfect amount of people for us. We were able to have most of our family (some could not travel because of COVID) and our closest friends. Our officiant was JoAnne Morris. She is an ordained minister, but more importantly, she is a friend of ours. It was really meaningful to have someone we know play that role in our wedding. There are two pieces of our ceremony that stand out as our favorites. One was the poem we had read titled “I Have Just Said,” by Mary Oliver. The first time I read the poem I immediately thought of Haley and when we got engaged I knew I wanted it to be read during the ceremony. I still remember the day I read it to Haley and after reading it, I looked up at her and we both had tears in our eyes. It’s a beautiful poem that fits us perfectly.”

“The second, and our most favorite part of the wedding ceremony, was the moment we had with our two boys, Nate and Stephen. Nate and Stephen are related on Haley’s side of the family and only a couple of months after getting engaged, they came to live with us. Over the course of our first year together, we formed a family and we wanted to honor that family by making promises to the boys. We also wanted to give them something to symbolize our commitment to them and to being a family. A few weeks before the wedding Haley had the idea to create our very own family crest. We picked symbols that were representative of our family - things we like to do together, our dogs, the Deathly Hallows symbol to remind them that the only thing that can conquer death is love, and a latin quote that translates into english “Fortune Favors the Bold.” We wanted to honor and speak to the boldness the boys showed when they moved in with us, the boldness we showed in opening our home, and the boldness we would continue to show as we move through life as a “non-traditional family” (whatever that even means - because like, what is a "traditional family" anyway?!). After reciting our vows to each other as wives, we recited our promises to the boys and then pinned our family crest onto their shirts. It was a moving moment for everyone present and one that we as a family will cherish forever. In addition to the pins, we had a larger copy of the crest made and to this day it sits on our mantle as a reminder of the promises made to the boys and the beautiful family that we’ve created together.”

Their advice to other couples planning their wedding is, “DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. It’s easy to get caught up in what your family thinks, what your friends think, and what society tells you a wedding is “supposed” to look like. We took the word “should” out of our vocabulary and that made all the difference. We would not have done a thing different. “

“When we first started planning our wedding, we felt a lot of pressure from family to do it a certain way. We knew that we wanted something small, but our families wanted something bigger. The guest list continued to grow and then COVID hit. This meant that the list needed to be shortened, significantly, so that we could keep everyone safe. I wish COVID wasn’t something we have all had to go through, and I am grateful that because of COVID our wedding turned out to be what Haley and I had wanted from the beginning. We tried to make the best out of being a “COVID Wedding,” so we had masks with our hashtag printed on them and hand sanitizers with stickers that had our names and wedding date printed on them as our favors. Our wedding would not have been possible without the incredible support of our friends, family, and Danny Mac’s Pizza. Everything from our signage and floral arrangements (except for the bouquets and boutonnieres) to the cake table and the set up of both the ceremony room and outdoor reception and music playlist, was DIY. Our outdoor reception in the courtyard right outside of Danny Mac’s was more beautiful than either of us could have imagined on our own and we give all the credit for that reception to Danny Mac’s and the team there. Our wedding day was more than we could have ever imagined and it was perfect for us.”

“Another note: there WILL be hiccups. The week of our wedding, our hair person could no longer do our hair, and the woman who was going to (safely) sing, had emergency surgery. We took lots of deep breaths, and made it work. And it worked out beautifully. So, let go of what you can’t control and be present in the moment. Look at the people who are gathered as you walk down the aisle. Be mindful of every step, every word, every hug, and every kiss. It will pass by quickly, but if you pay attention then it will stay with you forever.”

“I also need to shout out Sarah. If it wasn’t for Sarah meeting with us at the very beginning of our planning process, I don’t know that we would have shed the “wedding shoulds” like we did. From beginning to end, Sarah was so helpful. We are forever grateful for her wedding knowledge, the assistance in creating a wedding day timeline, and the incredible pictures she took that we will forever cherish.”

Venue: Mellwood Art Center // Catering: Danny Mac’s Pizza // Florals: Hazelfield Farm // Gown: Rebecca’s Weddings // MUA: Micaela Frances Reeves // Photography: Sarah Katherine Davis